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Marriage is a state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognised by law.

The story of Cinderella was wonderful. It does indeed warm the heart. It has inspired so many people and motivated them to fall in love. However, the truth is, it is an idealised version of falling in love that rarely ever approximates the reality of what love really means.

So many questions have been asked when it comes to love and marriage. This article will discuss essential things that are needed to make your relationship stronger and longer.

Is Marriage Worth Saving?

It is quite difficult to answer this question, but the truth of it is that marriage should not and cannot be saved for several reasons. However, some marriages can be saved but in very rare cases. According to Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz “In the case of abuse – sexual, physical, mental – many failing marriages and relationships are simply not worth saving. In fact, to attempt to save them puts one or both partners in the relationship at risk for further abuse” They added that some marriages become so  poisonous, dysfunctional and hopeless so much so that it is better to end them than to live in the illusion of saving them.

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If someone says I do not love you again can you make them love you again?

The answer to this question is No. To be quite honest you should appreciate the fact that they are very honest to tell you they do not love you again. Life is evolutionary as season’s change, so do the people you got married to three to six years ago.  In order to avoid this change happening to you, the best suggestion is to look at your relationship and communicate frequently and make sure you are aware of the changes not only on the other person but also within yourself and effectively communicate them; that way you will not wake up in the midst of a nightmare.

Most often women fall victims to this issue. They know that something has changed in the man, instead of looking for a way to tackle it, they go ahead to do Botox thinking it will get better. If you want to do botox for yourself, that is fine but the advice here is that instead of doing Botox, find out what has changed and why it has changed.

Appreciate what you already have

One of the things Dr Ivan Young advised is about cherishing your partner. In order to do this, you have to focus on the positive and not the negative. We all have negatives so appreciate what you already have and build more on it. Build more on your strengths and not your weaknesses.

What do I need to know before getting married?

Prior to getting married, there is a lot to do. There is the saying that a good relationship is the result of love and a lot of bad ones are the result of the lack of it.

To have a good relationship,  it is important to love yourself first. The second thing is to look at what you need when you deciding to take on the project. Yes, a project it is.  When you marry that person, they automatically  become your project and you become the same to them. For this reason, it is very important  to be very honest about who you are  as well as who you are not.

When you meet somebody, you meet the representative. It takes eighteen to twenty-four months to really know that person. So do not be in a hurry to get married. Most men always marry for the wrong reasons. They get married because they want to keep control or they want to appease their women.

It is important for every man or woman who wants to make a commitment to promise their partner the following things; If you are sick I will be there, and I will give you my card when you lose your job or give you my entire pay cheque.

Before you make those decisions be sure that you really understand what you are getting into because there is nothing wrong in being single.

Secondly, there is definitely nothing wrong with taking your time to get to know that person. As mentioned before, people meet a representative and it takes about 18 to 24 months to find out the real person behind them.

So, before calling him my guy/gal or my man/woman make sure you are friends first or make sure you really know who they are and how they had treated their ex-partners. You will enjoy a stronger and longer relationship by knowing each other  better.

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